One of the most difficult to carry out and in which we are less trained in things is to be honest with ourselves. Precisely, all coherence in our lives, in our aspirations, decisions, actions, ultimately, the entire way we can be in the world depends on this ability to be honest.
Self-deception has its role to understand as a way to protect ourselves what we are not yet able to cope, either because it pains us, we are afraid, or because I doubt that potential we all have within to overcome the necessary hurdles to keep growing.
Thus, we can surprise again and again thinking, saying, doing, everything that does not correspond to what we truly feel, ultimately, is what matters.
So that, to resolve the situation and the pain that causes us to feel "lost" for a while, you have to add the immense pain of not being in line with our being to not grant a right to know what is sincerely what happens in the depths of our hearts.
Look inside honestly is difficult because it requires the courage to reach what we already know in advance that most likely will not know immediately fix requires HUMILITY surely to recognize that for some time have been doing something wrong, we're wrong about something and the measures adopted did not serve, and therefore must seek other.
Requires a great deal of LOVE toward those we are to forgive the mistake without Judge us without reproach, and finally, requires a new perspective that we are not used to, at least not in a fully conscious way, because plenty is known to learn due to errors, but this rationally and logically admit that without discussion, then, the moment of truth, do not feel or apply with conviction, as if it did not then appear the well-known fear of failure.
If we admit the truth (again, honestly) that we are not infallible, would recognize immediately that wrong is a great and wonderful opportunity to evolve and thus, understood in this way, come to the inevitable conclusion that "failure" as such does not exist.
But our ego clings, strives to hold any belief, even if we damage, provided us the "importance" that do not actually have to look or identify, or justify, simply because "we", and nothing more important than "being".
And how can we be honest?
If it hurts, and it scares us do not really know where to start?
Perhaps there is no magic formula.
Perhaps the way the questions and not the answers be the one to teach us to implement everything listed above are: courage, humility, love for self and new perspective ...
Perhaps the question is not how to be honest, or how difficult it may seem to be, perhaps the question is will we be any better for being happy than through consistency granting us be honest with ourselves way?